A favourite tactic of trolls – practically a signature move – is to use abusive, insulting language, and then, when called on it, to accuse their interlocutors of using ad hominem argumentation.
Most of the time, this is specious. I’ll tell you why.
There are two important things to remember in this matter. The first is what argumentum ad hominem is. Consider the following three statements:
1. You’re an asshole, so your argument is false.
2. You’re arguing in an obnoxious manner, so you’re an asshole.
3. You’re evidently interested only in being abusive, not in actually coming to a common understanding, so I see no point in continuing to debate with you.
Which of these is an ad hominem?
Answer: In the strictest sense, only number 1 is. An ad hominem argument is, strictly speaking, an argument that attempts to make statements about the truth or falsity of someone’s position on the basis of irrelevant details of that person’s character. (In some debates, the person’s character is directly germane to the point at issue, but that’s not usually the case.) Numbers 2 and 3 make no statement about the truth or falsehood of the proposition debated. They are addressing different propositions (whether the person is an asshole; whether there is any point in continuing) and are doing it on the basis of relevant evidence.
In the broader sense, number 2 could be an ad hominem; if an attack on a person’s character is used to distract from the main point, that is more loosely an ad hominem. Whether or not the person is an asshole is typically not germane to the topic, as we have established, so making this side point can be a distraction.
But it may be relevant, and we’ll be coming to that very soon. In fact, I’ll lead into that with number 3. Number 3 does not address the point at issue, but it does address the discursive situation and its pragmatics. And the pragmatics of the situation are always relevant.
The reason for this is my second important point: All communication is behaviour. Whenever you say something to someone, you are doing something, and you are doing it with the aim of producing an effect on them – getting them to do something or respond in some way. This is why I so dislike the currently popular “I’m just sayin’” disclaimer: It’s always disingenuous. You’re never just saying.
Everything you say communicates not only the observations or thoughts or reported facts or other denotational content (dictionary definitions) of the words you use; it also communicates your mood, your attitude towards the content, your attitude towards your relationship with the person(s) you are addressing, and a definition of the situation in which it is uttered. This is not secondary or accessory. You are addressing this person or these persons because you want them to respond somehow – for instance:
- to do something for or to you (Could you please close the window? / Close the window. / A bit drafty in here, I think!)
- to give you some information (Who’s that? / Hey, she’s cute! Friend of yours? / If it’s not impolite of me to ask, I would like to know the name of that lady.)
- to change their perspective so that they will in future conduct themselves in a way that you consider desirable (Have you thought about losing some weight? / You really ought to think about slimming down a bit for your health. / I have this friend who took up running. Lost sixty pounds. Feels great. Is going to live an extra ten years, her doctor says.)
- to acknowledge that you are right (this is an important reason many of us get into time-wasting debates online, and we seldom accomplish it)
- to be angry and humiliated (this is the troll special)
As you can see from the examples above, there are several ways that you can aim to accomplish the same end, and each way participates in a different definition of the situation and relationship between utterer and receiver. Indirect politeness forms (Would you mind passing me the salt?) indicate that you have respect for the person and that you do not place yourself above them in the interactional status exchange (in some instances, politeness forms can also be used to express impatience – please is often used this way). Entirely indirect mention of the topic may be more or less polite, depending on context and details, but is often seen as passive-aggressive (I think I need to put some salt on this…). More direct forms (Pass the salt) indicate less overt respect, though how that will be received will depend on your existing relationship with the person. Sarcasm and abusive language (Whaddya think, I don’t need salt over here? Duh) indicate contempt and generally function to engender conflict.
People who defend rudeness with “I’m just being bluntly honest” are deceiving themselves; don’t let them deceive you. It is always possible to communicate things more or less rudely (though it’s true that there are some topics that are hard to broach without some offence possible), and the level of rudeness communicates not denotative facts but attitudes towards the other person and the situation. Consider:
4. Interesting; I would have thought otherwise.
5. My experience suggests that that may be an inadvisable course of action.
6. I disagree.
7. That’s a bad idea.
8. Are you a moron? You must be a moron. Only a moron would suggest something so obviously stupid.
You can see that all of these can be used to communicate the same assessment of the facts of the matter; how they differ is in the level of respect towards the other person that they communicate, and in what effect they aim to produce (and will produce) on the person.
We should always be aware that there are pretty much always multiple ends being served with every communication. It’s never truly simple. A person who is saying something that is making you angry may or may not intend to make you angry, but even if they want you to be angry they may nonetheless want to debate something with you in a frank and ultimately productive way.
But then again, they may not. Some people enter into a debate with no intent of listening or of coming to a common understanding. They simply want to humiliate anyone who takes a position different from the one they have taken. It may take some time for you to realize you’re talking with such a person, but you will probably eventually notice that no matter what you say, unless it’s cowering acknowledgement of their rectitude, they will only continue their attack from whatever angle is convenient.
In such a case, they are pretending to engage in a debate aimed at establishing the facts about something, but in fact they are really engaged in what is for them a gladiatorial contest aimed at hurting and humiliating you. In short, they are being deceptive; they are committing a sort of interactional fraud, a bait-and-switch. And the worst part is that, while in a real gladiatorial contest you would at least be able to maim or kill them, in debates with trolls, no matter how thoroughly you confute their position, they will refuse to acknowledge your points, will mischaracterize what you have said, and will continue to be abusive.
Now, reasonable people can get upset and dug in from time to time without being trolls. There is a way of determining the sincerity of engagement of the person you are talking with. Say something like this:
Your tone and terms, whether intentionally or not, are abusive and are distracting from the facts of the matter. I think perhaps we need to pause to cool down and then we can continue this more dispassionately a bit later.
A person who is ultimately of some level of goodwill and who truly is interested in a mutual advancement of understanding may be defensive at first but will probably ultimately back off a bit.
A troll, on the other hand, will more likely accuse you of an ad hominem and say you’re just upset because you’re losing.
But in fact it is always relevant to address what ends the person is aiming to achieve and what effects the person is producing. If you say to a person that you’re going to stop debating with them because they don’t appear to be interested in actually sincerely and openly debating, that is absolutely pertinent, in the same way as it is absolutely pertinent if you say you’re going to stop going to a restaurant because they never serve what they say they’re going to serve. It usually has no bearing on the truth value of the ostensible point at issue, true, but it is relevant to the discourse as a whole and merits attention.
And in fact, when a troll accuses you of ad hominem because you object to their abusiveness and you’re getting frustrated with their gladiatorial approach, it is the troll – not you – who is more guilty of ad hominem: the implication of their accusation is that you are unfamiliar with logic (sometimes they come out and say as much) and thus of inferior intellect (they seldom miss the chance to drive that idea home) and, because you are stupid, it stands as further evidence that your argument is garbage. (All of this is weak reasoning.) More to the point for them, of course, it further proves your worthlessness as a person and as a proxy for the argument they wish to see themselves as conquering hero dealing defeat and humiliation to. It is thus a personal attack, as such a distraction from the main argument, and it carries the implication that your position must be wrong because you are a fool.
Implications are insidious, of course; they can often be disowned because they are not overtly stated, and it is true that people can seem to communicate things that they do not intend. It is always best to address implications in qualified terms.
But always remember that all communication is someone doing something to produce an effect on someone else. That is not secondary. That is primary. And it is always relevant. That’s why they’re saying anything at all!